The Best Time To Take Action If You Want To Succeed In Life

Whoever watches the wind will not plant; whoever looks at the clouds will not reap.

Eccles. 11:4 NIVUK

I struggled with a lot of issues for most of my life before I learnt the best secret to success. Like everyone in this world who wants to succeed, I worked hard but there was very little to show for my efforts. I did everything I could and fought as hard as anyone whose life depends on  the outcome but somehow, I came out with “Nil points” as the French would say.

Just when I thought I was about to win my battle strategy was sabotaged. I guess part of me just got used to blaming “the enemy without.” However, there came a time when I put my hands up and admitted that the enemy was within. I was my own worst enemy.

How so? You may be asking.

Before I answer your question I will let you in on a little secret. It’s the one thing that actually helped me take a deep look within. I participated in The Profile Builder Challenge run by Simone Vincenzi and Michelle Raymond.

During the programme I learnt how pitching and being featured on big publications. It was an intense time with very tight deadlines but all very worth it.

Now back to the question at the back of your mind.

Your internal demons will fight you every step of the way each time you want to step up your game. The time will never be right. Therefore, the best time to take action will always be NOW!

What The Experts Don’t Tell You About Success

Everyone dreams of success in their lives.  We all want to enjoy the rewards of having made it in life. As a result we spend countless hours reading books on success, attending seminars that will motivate us or watching videos that will inspire us.


We leave seminars fired up to be the next big thing. But all that fire soon dies in the cold face of reality, in the form of the pain you experience as you pursue your dreams.

The secret the experts don’t tell you is that there is no “one size fits all” route to success. However, a tenacious spirit, strong conviction and hard work still produce results.

You find your path and learn to own your pain in the process.

It’s the only way you get through the valley of death experience and come out a winner.

Remind yourself of this every single day:

You have and are everything you need.

Stop searching for solutions from people who are more lost than you are. Draw from those resources hidden deep within your spirit. You are better than you think.

Who Is Controlling Your Destiny?

Whose voice are you giving your ear to? The people you listen to and believe are the ones who control your destiny.

We are daily bombarded with countless instructions, controls, persuasions, and expectations from others. Everything around us demands our attention. We are not even aware of most of the things that influence our behaviour. Our lives are very much like ships with numerous captains, all issuing instructions on which course to take. We are not even aware that the directions our lives eventually take benefit only the controlling captain, leading us on their own course and, in fact, lead our own ships astray.

If we allow ourselves to be influenced by others, consciously or unconsciously, in a way that promotes other people’s agendas, then we are not only out of control, but are headed for an unknown destiny. We have failed ourselves by failing to recognise that our own future hangs in the balance.

Take time to consider who you allow in your inner circle and whose voice you choose to listen to. Your destiny depends on it.

4 Compelling Reasons Why You Should Be A Lifelong Leaner

“Five hundred years ago people knew the world was flat. Fifteen minutes ago you knew humans were alone on this planet. Imagine what you’ll know tomorrow!”


I just love the above quote by Kay from the sci-fi film Men In Black. If you keep learning – imagine what you’ll know tomorrow!


As long as you are alive, there will always be opportunities for you to acquire new skills and adopt new techniques. Here are four compelling reasons why you should maintain life-long learning:

Stay Ahead of the Pack
Learning helps you stay ahead of the pack. If you do not actively engage in acquiring new skills, or learning new things and putting acquired knowledge to use you are not doing yourself any favours. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you’re running with the pack because the painful truth is that you are falling behind.


Your learning can be in any area of your life. It can involve learning how to play an instrument, taking up a new sport, academic, professional or just disciplining yourself to keep up with what is going on the world.

Improve Your Performance
Learning is the first step to becoming a high performer. There is a strong correlation between learning and performance. The more you learn the better you will be at doing your work and will become invaluable to your organisation. Infact, this can be applied in just about any area of your life. You will become more confident in discussing thoughts and ideas as you will be able to back up your views with information from what you have learnt. Everyone loves a high-performer who delivers results.

Be Adaptable
People who embark on any journey that involves learning tend to adapt to new situations very quickly. People who can adapt quickly win. They don’t mourn past losses but are quick to recognise new opportunities and get on with life. They don’t stay down because there is always something ahead for them to pursue.

Stay Sharp
There is evidence that keeping your mind active helps fight dementia and brain ageing. Other studies that have been conducted also suggest that the act of acquiring new knowledge produces a rush of dopamine – a feel-good hormone.


Everyday millions of people go through the same routine, while life passes them by. Don’t be like them. See every interaction as a chance to learn something new.

Apparently in Europe only 10% of adults engage in life-long learning. Nowadays with access to the internet learning does not have to be restricted to the classroom. You can learn wherever you are – in your home, car, or at work.


Finally, stop making excuses and learn something new. As someone once said, “If you wait until all conditions are perfect before you act, you’ll never act.”


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Not All Pain Is Equal

“Not all pain is equal.” We should really come up with different words for pain that helps you grow and pain that destroys.

Pain That Builds

When you go to the gym and start building muscle it’s hard work, it’s painful but it’s good pain. I remember the first time I started running. I had always run for trains and buses so how different could this be? I put on my running gear, strapped on my running shoes and off I went.

I will never forget that day. Halfway through the run I wished I had strapped an extra pair of lungs on my back. Every single part of my body ached. My eyes were watering, my teeth, even my gums hurt. The situation improved after I joined the Couch to 5k programme. With a coach guiding me every step of the way I was soon able to comfortably run 5km non-stop. Lots of sweat but no extra lungs needed. Just a bottle of water.

Pain That Hurts

People suffer and die because someone tells them that the pain they are suffering (emotional, mental, spiritual or physical) is good for them. The victims endure an unacceptable state of circumstances based on misplaced trust in people with no insight; people who don’t bother asking what the pain is or what is causing it.

Show Respect

When people take their lives there are always comments like, “They could have asked for help.” As if they didn’t. Let’s stop disrespecting a victim’s intelligence. The question here is, “Were you really listening and hearing what was being said?” Repeating cliches like “It’s going to be okay” is kind, it’s nice but is not always helpful.

Listen

Take time to listen to what people are saying. Their behaviour and actions speak louder than their words. If you don’t know what to say or do, refer them to someone who does.

Fearless: Strategies To Help You Break Free From Fear

There is a saying that goes, “Time waits for no man.” One day you are a teenager living your best life and before you know it, decades have flown by.

Fearless
Fearless by Rejoice Denhere

Our mature years can, and should be, the most exciting time of our lives. We may have envisioned this as the season when we finally pursue life-long dreams. For some it is a wonderful and fulfilling time. For others it is not so as they find themselves paralysed by fear.

Fear of being alone.

Fear of not being needed.

Fear of missing out.

Fear of being unable to support themselves.

Fear of failing health.

Fear of growing old.

In Fearless, a 21 day devotional, I share why there is no need to be controlled by fear. It is possible to break free from its bondage and live life with less fear. We know that lack of knowledge can contribute to fear. For example; if you knew that the neighbour’s dog that you are petrified of does not have teeth, how would that change things for you?

But knowledge alone is not enough. You need to put that knowledge to practice. Knowledge may be power but knowledge which is put into practice is more powerful.

Fearless is available on Amazon Kindle. It is free on Kindle Unlimited.

Being Vegan – The Next Big Thing In Life

It has been three years now since I made a lifestyle change and started following a plant-based diet.

 

Spinach smoothie green smoothie

I normally start my day with a glass of water followed by a smoothie. I have a few different types of smoothies I make to keep the morning routine interesting as I kickstart the day. One of my favourite ones is the spinach smoothie. I don’t add much to it – just water and fresh washed spinach. Occasionally I will add peppers – they add a lovely, refreshing taste.

 

Fresh fruit healthy eating

When I first changing my eating habits I would follow up with a bowl of oats served with a bananas. I don’t eat oats nowadays. Something happened when I started running which resulted in changed preferences. You can read about it in my post about my running experiences. I tend to get hungry quite quickly so I eat a little, often. Fruit is a life-saver as I snack on this throughout the day.

salad green salad

Lunch is usually a simple salad served with Quorn meat free fillets. I have various variations which I will share with you. I don’t prepare anything fancy but I do like experimenting a lot. The end result is that each meal I prepare is never exactly the same which is why I choose to call them Ree-Creations!

 

Vegetable soup tomato soup

I normally end the day with a bowl of soup. I think there is nothing like a hot bowl of soup to warm the heart, especially on a cold winter’s day. One thing I love is potatoes. I will have these served in a variety of ways – home made chips, mashed potatoes, roast potatoes etc. Supper is my main meal of the day so this will also be accompanied by a variety of cooked vegetables and a simple stew using the meat free range. I usually serve the mash with Linda McCartney sausages. If I fancy a curry then it will be Quorn meat-free chicken.

 

Do you think switching to a vegan diet will be the next big thing in your life?

Archie And The Fall – A Lesson In Living A Life Without Limits

It was Archie’s birthday and he was feeling supercharged. Friends and family had come from all over the country to celebrate his 21st birthday.

Later that evening guests stood around the barbeque in the garden and reminisced about years gone by. Archie had had one too many drinks and needed to relieve himself. As he staggered to the toilet he missed a step and almost fell.

The toilet on the ground floor was busy so he wobbled up the stairs to the bathroom on the first floor. The beer bottle in his right hand seemed to be the only thing helping him to keep his balance.

The bathroom was also busy. While waiting for the occupant to come out, Archie noticed a blue and red garment hanging over the bannister. He recognised it immediately. It was his superman cape; the one his mum had bought to humour him on his 18th birthday. He reached for it and wrapped it around his broad shoulders. He looked like superman, he felt like superman.

The bathroom door opened but, before he could move, another guest went in. A few people had come up and formed a short queue.

Archie was annoyed. This was not acceptable. He needed the bathroom and he needed it NOW! Feeling a bit tipsy he approached the guest nearest to him.

“Hold my drink man, hold my drink,” he slurred.

His older brother heard the commotion from downstairs. Fearing a punch up was about to ensue he bounded up the stairs, two steps at a time. He was about half way up when he felt as if the ceiling had collapsed on him. He fell headlong onto the ground floor. A few seconds later something heavy and soft fell on top of him.

A crashing sound followed as shards of the hallway mirror scattered everywhere.

 

“Archie!” Someone screamed.
“Oh my God, what happened?”
“Archie jumped.”
“Why?”
“He thought he was superman.”
“I’m guessing he was trying to get to the toilet in the quickest way possible.”

The two bodies at the bottom of the stairs lay completely still.

“Oh no they’re dead!”
“Someone call an ambulance.”

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The above is based on a true story. Names have been changed to protect the identity of the innocent. I was reminded of it when I read an article where the writer said, “The level of over confidence in people these days is scary.”

He wasn’t talking of the likes of Archie who jump off staircases believing they are superman. No. He was referring to the ones who put off living their life purpose until it’s too late. It sounds silly when you put it like that – right?

By the way Archie and his brother miraculously survived their fall with no injuries.

Surprisingly, though, approximately 95% of the earth’s inhabitants are not living their life purpose or as the best version of themselves. At least 50% of those individuals have the power to do something about it, yet they purposely choose not to.

In his life-changing book, “Miracle Morning,Hal Elrod says this, “… the average person takes life one day at a time, and has no higher purpose beyond merely surviving. Most people just focus on getting through the day, taking the path of least resistance, and pursuing short-term, short-lived pleasures along the way, while avoiding any pain or discomfort that might cause them to grow.”

The sad thing is that one day they wake up and realise that they have wasted their lives. The ones who wake up are the fortunate ones because some never get to see the light of another day.

Imagine how different eveything would be if you pursued your goals relentlessly with passion? Imagine how empowered you would feel if you saw the hero in you and not the labels people have stuck on you?

Are you living a life as the best version of yourself, a life without limits or just taking life as it comes?

What do you plan to do or change in order to leave planet earth having made a meaningful contribution?